How important is feeling good?

§ June 11th, 2010 § Filed under Love Your Life, Positive Esteem, Self Awareness, Self Esteem Women, Teenage Esteem § No Comments

How important is feeling good?  It is extremely important!  One of the things I notice about people I meet is how much they take their bodies for granted–and a good percentage of time feeling good is blocked by what is going on in our bodies. I am talking to YOU!!!  You will have a hard time feeling good if: you don’t get enough sleep, you eat too much sugar, you do not absorb nutrients because of a poor digestive system, you are constipated or have diarrhea often, you drink soda, worry, are angry, yell a lot, swallow your anger, take medication, eat processed foods, smoke, don’t exercise, don’t take a good multivitamin, drink too much alcohol, have medical conditions you ignore (high blood pressure, diabetes, low thyroid) have food allergies (dairy, wheat), live with mold, have a toxic relationship or toxic working conditions.

ALL of these affect your health by lowering your resistance to disease, increasing your own body’s attacks on itself (autoimmune disorders) and causing dangerously low mineral and vitamin deficiencies. Yikes–you may say, I engage in a lot of these behaviors!  Even if you did all of these things, you can start with just one. Pick one with the understanding that every little bit you do can make a difference in your happiness. Just the psychological effects of knowing you are tackling something in your life that is harmful to you makes a difference. Feeling good is a natural thing–but just like a cold can block our ability to breathe well, our behaviors can block our ability to feel happy. Give happiness a fighting chance–start a new habit today!

Be glad every day you wake up

§ June 1st, 2010 § Filed under Love Your Life, Self Awareness § No Comments

One day, without any warning, I was overcome with an addiction. Because I can’t get my work done, I thought going public with my secret would help. I discovered the Eagles of Hornby Island, (http://www.wildearth.tv/web/dch-hornby-01) two of whom nest on Doug Carrick’s property. Working with wildlife officials, Doug placed a number of cameras in and around the eagle’s nest and, except when it is dark, the eagles are on camera. Currently there is a month-old eaglet named Phoenix that has been on camera since the day he hatched. This is where my times goes–eyes fixated on my computer, watching in awe as mom and dad know exactly when it’s time to bring fish to the nest, agog as the eaglet eat huge amounts of fish–and an opossum–and grows visibly by the hour.

It would never occur to Phoenix–if he were to be able to think–that food wouldn’t be there when he is hungry. He plays with sticks, his parents’ claws, sleeps and eats. How wonderful if our life was that easy–but it isn’t. And we were never promised it would be easy. That is the stuff of fairy tales. Our lives are real and with reality, comes, good and bad, ups and downs, happy and sad. There is nothing wrong with you if your life has problems! No one’s life goes smoothly all the time. If your problems are stubborn or hurtful get help. Be glad every day you wake up–and if you need help, it is out there…unless you’re hooked on the Hornby Island Eagles.

Story Lines

§ May 24th, 2010 § Filed under Positive Esteem, Relationships, Self Esteem Women, Teenage Esteem § No Comments

If you have ever thought you were too shy to have friends, think about a TV show or a book you’ve loved. You fall in love with the characters and you can’t wait for the next episode or chapter. Then inevitably, the story has to end. No, you don’t want it to end…you want it to go on. These people are real to you. When the story ends, they end too. It’s like losing a real friend. Well, here’s the good news–you can have real friends! You can follow their story as they follow yours. You can talk to them and they will talk back.

How do you find friends? You become a friend. Maybe you’ll have to step out of your comfort zone but just Ask. Ask people about themselves, what they do, what they like, what music they listen to, their family, their pet, their job where they were born, have they every bunji jumped on and on. Once someone begins talking they will think you are awesome. Don’t think you have nothing to say, either. Your story is fascinating because everyone’s story is different. Thinking you have nothing to say means you don’t think you have any significance. Believe me, you do because no one else’s story is like yours….and that makes you interesting.

Monday Morning

§ May 17th, 2010 § Filed under Positive Esteem, Relationships, Self Awareness § No Comments

Monday morning–a drag for most people, especially today since it’s raining. But, I like the rain today. It’s not business as usual when it rains. My husband isn’t playing golf so he brought me coffee with cinnamon, so that’s a plus right out of the chute. I had a great weekend with my kids–visiting from Michigan and Richmond, VA.   My husband made his famous mustard potato salad and sloppy joe’s and I made my famous Ghirardelli brownies from Cosco. Wayne, who’s been a son-in-law the longest is a pretty tough guy who can do anything. He made his own solar collectors, gardens, and knows the secrets of the universe. He told the newest son-in-law, “When plans involve her family, she’s in charge. When plans involve my family, she’s in charge.”  Over the weekend we laughed so much I actually had to take a long nap after they left. Then I had to eat the rest of the brownies. Wayne understands self-esteem– he can make fun of himself, take a back seat to his wife and still feel pretty darn good. And we all love him because of it.

Are You Tired of Rushing?

§ May 12th, 2010 § Filed under Love Your Life, Self Awareness, Self Esteem Women § No Comments

Do you find yourself in a hurry all the time?

I don’t mean you’re late for your best friend’s wedding–and you’re in the wedding party. I mean hurrying…hurrying to get to a meeting, hurrying to fax something, hurrying your dog to “go,” telling your child to “hurry up,” feeling rushed, feeling like there’s not enough time, doing laundry at 11:00 p.m., taking your coffee, bagel, briefcase and the trash out with you in the morning–with the bagel between your teeth?  Why are we so rushed? Because we have forgotten how to live. We have forgotten we are meaningful just by being. We have forgotten how pleasant it is to stroll with a relaxed body instead of straining forward like runners at the finish line. We try to fit too much stuff in a given period of time. True, I don’t want to wear my underwear two days in a row, but I have made a conscious decision to not hurry on the way to the washing machine. I will not rush myself, my dog, or my husband. I urge you to take the pledge. Let me hear from you if you do.

Those $400 Jeans… Self Esteem?

§ April 26th, 2010 § Filed under Low Self Esteem Issues, Self Esteem Women, Teenage Esteem § No Comments

My husband takes The New York Times just so he can do the crossword. I was looking through their fashion magazine last night and found myself feeling incredibly sad. I used to feel out of it when I realized I wasn’t even close to being in fashion but last night I felt sorry for all those people dressed in the “latest.” They looked ridiculous!  If I, or anyone else I know, wore any of the clothes featured, we’d have kids and dogs following us down the street laughing and sniffing. It feels good to know what I like, what looks good and not have to pitch clothes because they’re “out” this year. I can’t imagine spending money on $400 jeans or a $2500 purse. I don’t need those things to be loved or liked. Fashion is fine but it can’t make you something you’re not. Dressing well helps us feel good but dressing to impress takes us down that treacherous and destructive path of comparing ourselves to others. Being who you are is the secret to loving yourself and loving your life.

Are you stuck in a rut?

§ April 16th, 2010 § Filed under Love Your Life, Low Self Esteem Issues, Positive Esteem, Self Awareness § 1 Comment

If you are stuck or in a rut, a good way to get unstuck is to change a routine. Find an accountibility friend and tell them everyday what you WILL accomplish that day. Write a note and mail it instead of emailing, read instead of watching TV, watch a funny TV show instead of listening to sad or heavy music, cut your hair, grow your hair, fix a new recipe, throw out stuff with additives, get up earlier, clean out a closet, bake, go to a new store you’ve never been to, walk the dog a different way. We are deeply influenced by what we do and while some routines are comforting, others lull us into feeling powerless over our lives. We are responsible for our own happiness and the way we feel about ourselves. We can change what we don’t like.

Does Your Birthday Really Matter?

§ March 27th, 2010 § Filed under Love Your Life, Positive Esteem § No Comments

I just celebrated my birthday. Does this seem like a silly thing to tell you? Everyone has one and mine isn’t particularly special except it is on St. Patrick’s Day. I get to drink green (or any color) beer with unabashed pleasure on St. Patrick’s Day but that isn’t the reason I’m telling you this. Birthdays are important because we are each important. I know this is so and I think you should know so too. Unless you are the president, there just aren’t that many days that celebrate, not what we’ve done, but who we are. We are supposed to celebrate ourselves just because we were born. Hmmm.

Join Terry as guest panelist on this teleclass

§ March 24th, 2010 § Filed under Uncategorized § No Comments

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Most people dread January, February and March

§ March 4th, 2010 § Filed under Love Your Life, Positive Esteem, Self Awareness § No Comments

Most people dread January, February and March because they seem like dreary winter months where nothing is going on. I happen to love these three months because they provide a breather for us all after the madness of Thanksgiving and Christmas, before Easter and summer.  They are the months where we can catch up on projects and stop running so much. Our regular lives are chaotic enough without all the extras of holiday planning, guests and extra meals.

Some people, though, don’t know what to do when they aren’t running around. They like being busy because they don’t have to think about problems and issues that are bothering them.
I will tell you a secret: The more you don’t deal with your issues, the more power they have over you. They become more inscrutable because they are vague and seem to float away from us when we “remember” we have a problem. Sit down with yourself, write down what you think the problem is. Then write down what you would tell a friend if she or he had the same problem. Just the act of writing it down helps because you have finally taken control. Obviously some problems are more easily solvable than others but taking a step is a start–a good start to freeing up your Spring.

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