Terry Diebold » Positive Esteem

I am a Night Owl

TD — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:58:30 +0000

I’m a night owl…drives my husband, who is a morning person, nuts. Love the quiet, no-phone, no-interruption, crap-on-TV-time-of-night. It’s almost naughty, like skinny-dipping at night when everyone’s in bed. At the same time it is sacred.. like being the first to walk down the street in fresh snowfall. Being alone with my putzing and thinking and playing and praying reminds me who I am. I hope you have time to do nothing so you will remember who you are, too.

Big Business Has Lost It’s Soul

TD — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 16:55:30 +0000

Someone said today, “If I gave you $50,000 to speak, what would you speak on? I replied, “I would talk about how big business has lost it’s soul.” Now before you get all upset, obviously, not every business, but in general–yeah. The businesses that are really successful have usually figured out that employees are people. Take Google–plenty of food, day care, exercise equipment, people working days, evenings, nights, hierarchy low, creativity high, productivity, high. Why are they so successful? Besides obvious reasons, it’s that people feel like they count. We all want to feel like we count, like we matter–that we have value. That is the greatest gift an employer can give–and it doesn’t cost–it pays.

Do You Like Your Life?

TD — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 18:35:39 +0000

Do you like your life? Do you only like parts of it? If you are not happy with your life, there is only one person who can do anything about it and that is–no secret here–you. If you are not happy, face it, you need to make some changes. Don’t know where to start? Begin by making a list of what you need to start doing–then do it! Do the best you can, but start. Don’t make excuses, start. Start. Start. Start. Start with one thing but Start. Now, today. Start. Talking is okay but it has it’s limits. Doing is what converts potential energy into an outcome. Take responsibility–after all, it’s your life and it’s the only one you have.

Complaining is a Way to Chronically Avoid Doing Things

TD — Fri, 13 Jan 2012 23:59:41 +0000

Complaining is a way to chronically avoid doing things. As long as you can complain, you don’t have to do, fix, or be accountable. Complaining changes the way you see the world, allowing the negative to dwell within you, smothering your creative energy. Complaining drives great people, ideas and gifts from your life. Is complaining really worth those few moments where you get to feel like a victim? Break the habit today and let the sunshine in–you will find you are able to handle disappointments and problems because you have everything you need to cope. Give the energy within you a chance to show you how capable you really are!

Don’t Look Back

TD — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 11:58:51 +0000

“Don’t look back, that’s not where you’re going.” If you’re always second-guessing yourself, thinking about the past, you will never have a future because you are wasting your present. Enjoy the moment you’re in or grieve it if that’s what is called for, but notice the now. The more you notice, the slower life will seem because rather than squandering your moments, you are living them.

Agreeing is Not Always the Goal

TD — Fri, 23 Dec 2011 11:02:55 +0000

Agreeing is not always the goal. Listening honors two souls, the one who needs to be heard and the one who graces by hearing.

Animals! They bring joy just by being themselves

TD — Fri, 16 Dec 2011 11:45:04 +0000

Animals! They bring joy just by being themselves and that by simply ’being’ you bring joy to others. That’s why you have been created to be exactly who you are.

Little things.

TD — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 15:04:17 +0000

Little things. Like putting the neighbor’s paper on their porch. Posting a positive comment on facebook. Emptying the dishwasher when it’s not your turn. Life may turn on the big events but it is sustained or damaged by the small ones. You may not realize it but you can completely change a person’s day by a simple act of kindness. Doing something thoughtful is like sprinkling fairy dust on someone’s life. It is magical and gives you wings.

Relationship Tip Of The Week

TD — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 20:39:52 +0000

Are you flexible? Can you roll with the punches, bend with the wind? If you can, life will be calmer. Don’t have all the info you need for a report? Need 36 cupcakes by 9:00 a.m.? There is always something that can be substituted or explained and the moment will slip by with no further notice.We need to accept that life doesn’t always work the way we want it to–and when it doesn’t, we just move on and do the best we can. There are enough big problems that we don’t have to create additional ones. Inhale, exhale slowly and let it go.

Relationship Tip of the Week

TD — Sat, 02 Jul 2011 12:00:23 +0000

Did you know you have a secret relationship weapon? It is available 24/7 and is free. It puts people at ease and makes you approachable. It encourages conversation and connection. One warning–used insincerely, it has the opposite effect. Give up? It’s your smile. Use it frequently and watch your life change for the positive.