Telling the truth about little things…going back in to pay for the soda they forgot to charge you for…’fessing up to leaving the door unlocked…admitting you didn’t call back because you forgot…telling the truth about little things…means you can be trusted with the big things.

Little things. Like putting the neighbor’s paper on their porch. Posting a positive comment on facebook. Emptying the dishwasher when it’s not your turn. Life may turn on the big events but it is sustained or damaged by the small ones. You may not realize it but you can completely change a person’s day by a simple act of kindness. Doing something thoughtful is like sprinkling fairy dust on someone’s life. It is magical and gives you wings.

Three Best Tips to Enjoy Thanksgiving

1. Rise Above It. Be pleasant but detached when you find yourself with someone you dislike. If something is upsetting, don’t engage. Nod distractedly and “suddenly” remember someone you need to see. Don’t allow your reaction to spoil your day.
2. Don’t compare. Everyone has their best mask on during the holidays–don’t compare your failures to their masks. No one is problem free–no matter what they say. You aren’t in competition with anyone but yourself to live the gift of your life well.
3. Savor the moment. The meaning of this day is what is important. Holiday rituals are about Loves. Look around at who’s part of your life, the history you have with them, your freedom, the things you take for granted. If you are alone, you can enjoy a day off, fill in for someone so they can be home, appreciate your life. Thanksgiving is a state of mind. http://blog.terrydiebold.com/

Yes, You, Too, Can Be Like Indiana Jones. If there is anyone who handles stress well, it is Indiana Jones. Just like Jones, recognizing stress in the moment is the best time to de-stress. We say resignedly, “What a crappy day,”  as though we’re helpless against negative circumstances. Unlike Jones, if there is nothing you can do in the moment, deal with it as best as you can but remind yourself that one incident does not a bad day make. React positively as soon as you are aware of it. Take a breath. Call a friend. Pray. Ask yourself if it will matter a hundred years from now. Laugh if you can. Luckily for you, it’s probably not life and death. Let the pressure remind you that it is possible to de-stress because ultimately you can choose…and you can choose wisely. http://blog.terrydiebold.com/

Is there somebody in your life who is a pain? Somebody who asks nosy questions, makes inappropriate comments, talks behind your back or just plain stirs up trouble? Your self-esteem determines how you handle these people. If you try to convince them they’re wrong, or ignorant, you play into their hands and prove that you are unsure of yourself.That’s why siblings have such awful fights–they’re both children!  Ignoring trouble-makers is like not returning the ball–no game. They know they are not getting to you because you aren’t hitting the ball back in their court. Oh, they might get another ball but if the result is the same each time, they lose their incentive. The game’s just not fun anymore.

How often do you complain–especially to yourself? Everytime you complain about something, it creates a negative energy around and within you. Negative energy repels others and attracts more negativity to you. Being angry makes you make mistakes. Being rushed slows you down when you have to go back and fix something you didn’t do right in your rush to get it done. Ask yourself, is it going to matter in 100 years if I’m late to my meeting because I “caught” the light? What impression do I make when I come in grumbling and stressed? Life can be fun sometimes–even when it stinks. Mae West said it best” “Life is a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death.” Hungry?