Terry Diebold » Relationships

Telling the Truth about the little things…

TD — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 11:14:50 +0000

Telling the truth about little things…going back in to pay for the soda they forgot to charge you for…’fessing up to leaving the door unlocked…admitting you didn’t call back because you forgot…telling the truth about little things…means you can be trusted with the big things.

Relationship Tip Of The Week

TD — Fri, 09 Sep 2011 23:26:25 +0000

Think…..did you do anything just for yourself today? Read, meet a friend, watch a favorite show, call a bff? A day without a personal break is like a day in JAIL!!!!!! You aren’t good for anyone or anything if you don’t take time to enjoy each day in a way that is personally satisfying to you–you get grumpy and feel like a martyr.But, it’s not too late to “save” today. Write me back and let me know what you did.

Relationship Tip Of The Week

TD — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 16:47:33 +0000

Ever notice that within a few moments of meeting each other, kids are playing like they’ve been friends their whole lives? It’s because they aren’t self-conscious once they start playing. They aren’t wondering what other kids think of them; they’re absorbed in their play. If we could be consumed with getting to know others (adult play) instead of what kind of impression we’re making, we would find relationships more rewarding and certainly more fun. Have you had your fun today?

Relationship Tip of the Week

TD — Fri, 19 Aug 2011 15:51:29 +0000

A friend of mine recently dissolved her business partnership and is going it alone. Business is booming after lagging for years. Why? Her partner was negative and gave off waves of rejecting energy. If you are in partnership with someone negative, or if you are in the habit of being negative, think of how it is limiting your relationships. As someone wiser than me once said, “Life is too short to wear tight shoes.”

Relationship Tip Of The Week

TD — Fri, 29 Jul 2011 13:36:31 +0000

How do you stick up for yourself while without alienating the other person? Easy! Tone is everything. Practice saying what you want to get across in the same tone you would use giving directions to a stranger–in other words, level, mature, informational–no emotion-packed words. “I’m upset that you told the Johnson’s our vacation plans when we agreed not to say anything to them.” Then wait for a response. If it’s defensive, stay calm. “It was our understanding, right?” Sometimes the hardest part is knowing how to start–if you start right and stay calm, the positive energy will calm the other person–or at least, it will keep you calm!

Relationship Tip Of The Week

TD — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 20:39:52 +0000

Are you flexible? Can you roll with the punches, bend with the wind? If you can, life will be calmer. Don’t have all the info you need for a report? Need 36 cupcakes by 9:00 a.m.? There is always something that can be substituted or explained and the moment will slip by with no further notice.We need to accept that life doesn’t always work the way we want it to–and when it doesn’t, we just move on and do the best we can. There are enough big problems that we don’t have to create additional ones. Inhale, exhale slowly and let it go.

Relationship Tip of the Week

TD — Sat, 02 Jul 2011 12:00:23 +0000

Did you know you have a secret relationship weapon? It is available 24/7 and is free. It puts people at ease and makes you approachable. It encourages conversation and connection. One warning–used insincerely, it has the opposite effect. Give up? It’s your smile. Use it frequently and watch your life change for the positive.

Relationship Tip of the Week

TD — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 11:50:41 +0000

People respond to what they sense about you, no matter what you actually say.

If your energy is positive and non-judgemental you are more likely to get a positive response. Taking a moment to do an attitude check can save an argument and sometimes an entire day of being upset. If you can’t shake your negative mood, wait a bit. It is definitely worth the results!

Relationship Tip of the Week

TD — Sat, 18 Jun 2011 11:21:10 +0000

If you can’t get a spouse, child or friend to open up to you, ask their opinion about something.”What do you think of Becky’s new bike?” “What are the mayor’s chances of being re-elected?” We all want to feel valued and being asked our opinion is a sign of that. It not only costs nothing but gives you both the gift of connection.

Relationship Tip of the Week

TD — Wed, 01 Jun 2011 13:00:31 +0000

We all remember Mr. Roger’s neighborhood….it was friendly, safe and never hurried. Ever wish your world could be like that? Every day we have a choice–our world can be pleasant, safe and friendly, even if there are people who want to make it just the opposite. We are the ones who are in control–not our “neighbors.” We can choose how we feel about situations and how we respond to others–regardless of how they act toward us. When we react to others, we are giving away our power and our self-esteem. We are not so fragile that an unkind comment can demolish us. Remember that old childhood chant, “Whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you”? Well, it’s true. When we choose not to react, the person is left with their comment hanging in the air–and others remember them for saying it. Life is too short to allow the negative in. Instead, put your sweater and sneakers on and have a beautiful day.