Terry Diebold » Self Esteem Women

Don’t Look Back

TD — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 11:58:51 +0000

“Don’t look back, that’s not where you’re going.” If you’re always second-guessing yourself, thinking about the past, you will never have a future because you are wasting your present. Enjoy the moment you’re in or grieve it if that’s what is called for, but notice the now. The more you notice, the slower life will seem because rather than squandering your moments, you are living them.

This is not an ordinary day

TD — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 14:03:35 +0000

This is not an ordinary day. When you opened your eyes this morning, you were given another day to become more. With your first conscious breath began an irreplaceable opportunity to deepen your life by loving and laughing, by acknowledging God’s work in your life. Before you rose, you were granted a new chance to acknowledge another person’s worth and importance. This…is a very extraordinary day.

Relationship Tip Of The Week

TD — Sat, 09 Jul 2011 20:39:52 +0000

Are you flexible? Can you roll with the punches, bend with the wind? If you can, life will be calmer. Don’t have all the info you need for a report? Need 36 cupcakes by 9:00 a.m.? There is always something that can be substituted or explained and the moment will slip by with no further notice.We need to accept that life doesn’t always work the way we want it to–and when it doesn’t, we just move on and do the best we can. There are enough big problems that we don’t have to create additional ones. Inhale, exhale slowly and let it go.

Relationship Tip of the Week

TD — Fri, 24 Jun 2011 11:50:41 +0000

People respond to what they sense about you, no matter what you actually say.

If your energy is positive and non-judgemental you are more likely to get a positive response. Taking a moment to do an attitude check can save an argument and sometimes an entire day of being upset. If you can’t shake your negative mood, wait a bit. It is definitely worth the results!

Blessing the Winter Blah’s

TD — Mon, 14 Mar 2011 15:21:42 +0000

“I hate this time of year! Nothing’s happening–no holidays, nothing to look forward to.” I hear this often between January and April, but personally, find it a wonderful, restful time precisely because there are no formal holidays. There is a time in our lives for busyness and a time for mental and emotional rest. The best self happiness usually comes from a leisurely visit with a friend, picking up that novel that has been calling, cleaning out the junk closet on a snowy day. The quiet, the mundane, the unexciting give meaning amid the commercial and shallow. Remember this when you feel antsy…bored, or the day is grey. Look around and appreciate the blessings that patiently await your notice.

Have you said YES today?

TD — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 15:16:30 +0000

A famous theologian once said “Babies are God’s way of saying ‘Yes’ to the world.” Have you ever thought of the ways God says yes to you everyday? If you can say yes to just one of these things–if someone loves you, if you have a friend, if you can get food, if you have a job, if you can read, if you can see, if you can walk, if you can give to others, if you have a pet, if you have job to complain about, if you laughed today, if you talked to a relative, if you went to a store and bought something you need, if you breathe clean air, if you can give thanks–then God has said “yes” to you today. And that means you matter.

“I like who I am!” Observing your positive traits

TD — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 13:01:15 +0000

When was the last time you thought, “I like who I am!” A long time? Never? I want you to jot down a quick list of things you like about yourself–never mind the things you don’t like–just the things you like and put the list in your pocket or somewhere where you can touch it. Then, today, every time you start to put yourself down, put your hand on that list and think about how your positive traits help others. Let me know what happens.

How important is feeling good?

TD — Fri, 11 Jun 2010 12:10:01 +0000

How important is feeling good? It is extremely important! One of the things I notice about people I meet is how much they take their bodies for granted–and a good percentage of time feeling good is blocked by what is going on in our bodies. I am talking to YOU!!! You will have a hard time feeling good if: you don’t get enough sleep, you eat too much sugar, you do not absorb nutrients because of a poor digestive system, you are constipated or have diarrhea often, you drink soda, worry, are angry, yell a lot, swallow your anger, take medication, eat processed foods, smoke, don’t exercise, don’t take a good multivitamin, drink too much alcohol, have medical conditions you ignore (high blood pressure, diabetes, low thyroid) have food allergies (dairy, wheat), live with mold, have a toxic relationship or toxic working conditions.

ALL of these affect your health by lowering your resistance to disease, increasing your own body’s attacks on itself (autoimmune disorders) and causing dangerously low mineral and vitamin deficiencies. Yikes–you may say, I engage in a lot of these behaviors! Even if you did all of these things, you can start with just one. Pick one with the understanding that every little bit you do can make a difference in your happiness. Just the psychological effects of knowing you are tackling something in your life that is harmful to you makes a difference. Feeling good is a natural thing–but just like a cold can block our ability to breathe well, our behaviors can block our ability to feel happy. Give happiness a fighting chance–start a new habit today!

Story Lines

TD — Mon, 24 May 2010 15:02:21 +0000

If you have ever thought you were too shy to have friends, think about a TV show or a book you’ve loved. You fall in love with the characters and you can’t wait for the next episode or chapter. Then inevitably, the story has to end. No, you don’t want it to end…you want it to go on. These people are real to you. When the story ends, they end too. It’s like losing a real friend. Well, here’s the good news–you can have real friends! You can follow their story as they follow yours. You can talk to them and they will talk back.

How do you find friends? You become a friend. Maybe you’ll have to step out of your comfort zone but just Ask. Ask people about themselves, what they do, what they like, what music they listen to, their family, their pet, their job where they were born, have they every bunji jumped on and on. Once someone begins talking they will think you are awesome. Don’t think you have nothing to say, either. Your story is fascinating because everyone’s story is different. Thinking you have nothing to say means you don’t think you have any significance. Believe me, you do because no one else’s story is like yours….and that makes you interesting.

Are You Tired of Rushing?

TD — Wed, 12 May 2010 15:05:27 +0000

Do you find yourself in a hurry all the time?

I don’t mean you’re late for your best friend’s wedding–and you’re in the wedding party. I mean hurrying…hurrying to get to a meeting, hurrying to fax something, hurrying your dog to “go,” telling your child to “hurry up,” feeling rushed, feeling like there’s not enough time, doing laundry at 11:00 p.m., taking your coffee, bagel, briefcase and the trash out with you in the morning–with the bagel between your teeth? Why are we so rushed? Because we have forgotten how to live. We have forgotten we are meaningful just by being. We have forgotten how pleasant it is to stroll with a relaxed body instead of straining forward like runners at the finish line. We try to fit too much stuff in a given period of time. True, I don’t want to wear my underwear two days in a row, but I have made a conscious decision to not hurry on the way to the washing machine. I will not rush myself, my dog, or my husband. I urge you to take the pledge. Let me hear from you if you do.