If You Think Fairy Tales Are Just For Children

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If You Think Fairy Tales Are Just For Children

If you think fairy tales are just for children you would be mistaken. In the Ugly Duckling, the little swan duckling thought he was fine until the mother duck who hatched him told him he was ugly. Up to that time he was having a great time just being himself. He sunk into despair. Then the mother swan who found the duckling told him that he was handsome and swept him up in her arms and kissed and kissed him. He didn’t have to change a thing. Has your self-esteem been ruined by a comment from someone that was only from their point of view? Our greatest gift is ourselves…so be yourself!  That way the people who care for you and love you can marvel at how beautiful you are–just as you were created.


Have you said YES today?

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A famous theologian once said “Babies are God’s way of saying ‘Yes’ to the world.” Have you ever thought of the ways God says yes to you everyday? If you can say yes to just one of these things–if someone loves you, if you have a friend, if you can get food, if you have a job, if you can read, if you can see, if you can walk, if you can give to others, if you have a pet, if you have job to complain about, if you laughed today, if you talked to a relative, if you went to a store and bought something you need, if you breathe clean air, if you can give thanks–then God has said “yes” to you today. And that means you matter.


“I like who I am!” Observing your positive traits

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When was the last time you thought, “I like who I am!” A long time? Never? I want you to jot down a quick list of things you like about yourself–never mind the things you don’t like–just the things you like and put the list in your pocket or somewhere where you can touch it. Then, today, every time you start to put yourself down, put your hand on that list and think about how your positive traits help others. Let me know what happens.


How important is feeling good?

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How important is feeling good?  It is extremely important!  One of the things I notice about people I meet is how much they take their bodies for granted–and a good percentage of time feeling good is blocked by what is going on in our bodies. I am talking to YOU!!!  You will have a hard time feeling good if: you don’t get enough sleep, you eat too much sugar, you do not absorb nutrients because of a poor digestive system, you are constipated or have diarrhea often, you drink soda, worry, are angry, yell a lot, swallow your anger, take medication, eat processed foods, smoke, don’t exercise, don’t take a good multivitamin, drink too much alcohol, have medical conditions you ignore (high blood pressure, diabetes, low thyroid) have food allergies (dairy, wheat), live with mold, have a toxic relationship or toxic working conditions.

ALL of these affect your health by lowering your resistance to disease, increasing your own body’s attacks on itself (autoimmune disorders) and causing dangerously low mineral and vitamin deficiencies. Yikes–you may say, I engage in a lot of these behaviors!  Even if you did all of these things, you can start with just one. Pick one with the understanding that every little bit you do can make a difference in your happiness. Just the psychological effects of knowing you are tackling something in your life that is harmful to you makes a difference. Feeling good is a natural thing–but just like a cold can block our ability to breathe well, our behaviors can block our ability to feel happy. Give happiness a fighting chance–start a new habit today!


Story Lines

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If you have ever thought you were too shy to have friends, think about a TV show or a book you’ve loved. You fall in love with the characters and you can’t wait for the next episode or chapter. Then inevitably, the story has to end. No, you don’t want it to end…you want it to go on. These people are real to you. When the story ends, they end too. It’s like losing a real friend. Well, here’s the good news–you can have real friends! You can follow their story as they follow yours. You can talk to them and they will talk back.

How do you find friends? You become a friend. Maybe you’ll have to step out of your comfort zone but just Ask. Ask people about themselves, what they do, what they like, what music they listen to, their family, their pet, their job where they were born, have they every bunji jumped on and on. Once someone begins talking they will think you are awesome. Don’t think you have nothing to say, either. Your story is fascinating because everyone’s story is different. Thinking you have nothing to say means you don’t think you have any significance. Believe me, you do because no one else’s story is like yours….and that makes you interesting.


Those $400 Jeans… Self Esteem?

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My husband takes The New York Times just so he can do the crossword. I was looking through their fashion magazine last night and found myself feeling incredibly sad. I used to feel out of it when I realized I wasn’t even close to being in fashion but last night I felt sorry for all those people dressed in the “latest.” They looked ridiculous!  If I, or anyone else I know, wore any of the clothes featured, we’d have kids and dogs following us down the street laughing and sniffing. It feels good to know what I like, what looks good and not have to pitch clothes because they’re “out” this year. I can’t imagine spending money on $400 jeans or a $2500 purse. I don’t need those things to be loved or liked. Fashion is fine but it can’t make you something you’re not. Dressing well helps us feel good but dressing to impress takes us down that treacherous and destructive path of comparing ourselves to others. Being who you are is the secret to loving yourself and loving your life.