Conscious Living

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I tried two new recipes this last week that were dreadful. One was my own and one was someone else’s. My husband and I managed to get them down but the rest went into the trash which is really absurd because while the food was on my plate I felt I had to eat it, but if it was in the pan, I could throw it away! But you know what was good about it? I tried something new. I suspended judgment and just went for it. Sometimes it’s good to be in a rut and sometimes it isn’t. I was fully engaged while I was cooking and felt a little more alive. I know, I know…it’s just a couple of recipes but sometimes that is exactly what we need–a change-up in some routine that makes us pay more attention to our everyday lives–lives which are often lived on auto-pilot. Maybe it’s taking another way home or buying a different brand of motor oil or watching a different news channel; sometimes just a little thing will do. It’s called conscious living and reminds us how many opportunities for deeper living each day offers us and what a gift each day is.


You’re Just Supposed to Listen

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You’re Just Supposed to Listen

Once when my daughter was about six, she had been playing with some older girls who were being “mean” to her. She came in, as she often did, crying. As she stood there taking in deep gulps of air between sobs, I said what I had said many times. “Now honey, I’ve told you before, these girls are older and they are not good for you to play with. If you keep playing with them, you’re just going to get hurt.”  She stomped up the stairs and then stopped, turned around and put her little hands on her hips. Then she said angrily, “Don’t you know you’re just supposed to listen?” I have never forgotten that. She needed comfort and I gave her a lecture. She already knew what I was going to say–and that’s not what her little soul needed.  Next time someone is angry or upset, remember: You’re just supposed to listen.

 


Denial is Not Your Friend!

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Denial is Not Your Friend!

When something is wrong in my life, I feel like I can’t be at peace until it is resolved in some way. Sometimes it means talking to the person that is involved, sometimes it means stepping back from the situation and giving myself some time to digest it. Ignoring it, however, is denial which only causes anxiety and makes the situation even worse. We deny what we feel because we are afraid that resolving the conflict will be so awful that we just live with it. When you think this way, you are selling yourself short. There is always more than one way to resolve conflict–the answer is usually not disastrous. Beginning a dialogue is the first step in resolving relationship issues, deepening your relationship skills and creating a more satisfying life. So take a deep breath and take a positive step…because how you relate always matters.


Who Are You?

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Who Are You?

Who are you? Here’s a quick exercise in understanding yourself. Each day for the next 7 days write down–not think in your head–but write down, something you do well or that helps other people. Be specific–not,” I am kind,” but “I can not only tell when someone needs an extra word of encouragement, I seem to know exactly what to say. “This is not about bragging–this is about understanding the importance of your role in the universe. Everyone one is important– one missing screw can bring a jumbo jet down. You may not realize it because you only see yourself through your eyes, but your life is and will continue to be critical to many, many people. They need you–it’s important that you value yourself enough to be there.


If You Think Fairy Tales Are Just For Children

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If You Think Fairy Tales Are Just For Children

If you think fairy tales are just for children you would be mistaken. In the Ugly Duckling, the little swan duckling thought he was fine until the mother duck who hatched him told him he was ugly. Up to that time he was having a great time just being himself. He sunk into despair. Then the mother swan who found the duckling told him that he was handsome and swept him up in her arms and kissed and kissed him. He didn’t have to change a thing. Has your self-esteem been ruined by a comment from someone that was only from their point of view? Our greatest gift is ourselves…so be yourself!  That way the people who care for you and love you can marvel at how beautiful you are–just as you were created.


Small Acts of Kindness

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Small Acts of Kindness

Big results from small acts. Just watched a segment about a man who brings coffee to cancer patients. He’s been doing it for years and has become a much beloved fixture at the treatment center. What small act can you perform that makes a difference? If everyone in the country did one small act a day, that would be 312,988,384 people whose day would be just a little bit better, who would feel a little bit happier and be a little bit more fulfilled because of the small act of kindness they performed themselves. Times that by 360 days and that would be 113 trillion acts of kindness. Your kindness will never be insignificant–no matter how small.

 


I am a Night Owl

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I am a Night Owl

I’m a night owl…drives my husband, who is a morning person, nuts. Love the quiet, no-phone, no-interruption, crap-on-TV-time-of-night. It’s almost naughty, like skinny-dipping at night when everyone’s in bed. At the same time it is sacred.. like being the first to walk down the street in fresh snowfall. Being alone with my putzing and thinking and playing and praying reminds me who I am. I hope you have time to do nothing so you will remember who you are, too.


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