Relationship Tip of the Week

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Relationship Tip of the Week
Does your partner make you feel guilty?  Do you feel like you can’t ever please him or her? If so, you may be in a relationship where your partner is insecure and lacks self-esteem. Of course, if you don’t spend time relationship building, then maybe you are the one who is at fault. But if you honestly do think you give more than sufficient time to your partner and he or she is still unhappy, it may be because they are unhappy with themselves and are looking to you to fill the hole in their life. When we have healthy self-esteem, we realize that our partner does not “owe” us whatever we didn’t get in childhood. We do not hold our partners responsible for making or keeping us happy. That is our job. When we are emotionally healthy, we realize when we legitimately have a beef with our spouse and when we want them to fill in our emotional emptiness for us. Whether it is you or your partner, if either of you seems intent on making the other person feel guilty for not giving enough, it is time to reassess the relationship and perhaps see a therapist. Remember, you do not have to be miserable together.
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