Terry Diebold on the Value of Self Worth» Child

Low self-esteem is the same thing as being a negative thinker.

admin — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 23:08:07 +0000

Have you ever had a friend who was so negative you didn’t want to be around him? On a sunny day he would say, “Yes, but it’s going to rain later.” After a good movie, “The amount of money actors are paid makes me sick.”

Low self-esteem is the same thing as being a negative thinker. All you focus on are the things you can’t do or should have done better. If you put yourself down like this all the time, you won’t even want to be around yourself! To build self-esteem, focus on the things at which you have been successful, no matter how small. God did not put you on earth to hate yourself. By focusing on what you do well, why you are here will become clearer. You are your best source for building self-esteem in yourself and in your children. Focus on the positive for one day. See the difference it makes. Tell me about your experience. Write me back or call me at (540) 455-4186.

Low self-esteem is the same thing as being a negative thinker. is a post from: Terry Diebold on the Value of Self Worth

How to help low self esteem, especially in children

admin — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 03:09:35 +0000

I get many, many inquiries about how to help low self esteem, especially in children. People are afraid they have caused low self-esteem in their children and want to know what are the best self-esteem building activities. The best self-esteem building activity besides spending time with your child WITHOUT OTHER DISTRACTIONS–most notably, constant cell phone calls, is to do activities in which your child can be successful.

If they are building a sand castle, let THEM build it. You may help minimally, such as demonstrating, but then sit back and let them do it. Tell them they built a good sand castle, that you like the way they learned how to mix the right amount of sand and water, etc. but do not tell them “Good Job.” They hear too much of that–it is a distracted and tired phrase which has lost its meaning. Be specific in your praise–but do not over-praise. This makes a child feel successful in their own mind–which is where self-confidence really resides.

How to help low self esteem, especially in children is a post from: Terry Diebold on the Value of Self Worth

I love my life even when I’m in pain…

admin — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 03:15:38 +0000

Dewey

The past week I have been recovering from knee replacement surgery. It has been a humbling process. I have been dependent on other people…nurses, aides and especially my husband, to do very basic things for me. Most women I know feel uncomfortable when they are waited on because we are used to being the ones who do things for others. These weeks of recovery, I am reminding myself that I have taken care of others for years and that I can receive from others without feeling guilty. But even if I hadn’t cared for a single other person, I still deserve help because I am a person who needs it.

My dog, Dewey, has even understood I need extra care because he has been spending all of his sleeping time on my lap, giving me extra licks to keep me ahead of the pain. There is much to be grateful for and happy about, even when something is throbbing. I love my life even when I’m in pain…and I urge you to find all you can to love about your life too.

I love my life even when I’m in pain… is a post from: Terry Diebold on the Value of Self Worth